The issue with some people

Something I've come to realize now that I've entered the amazing days of the 30th decade: Some people suck (and that's ok), people project their insecurities, some people are comfortable enough to ignore you or disrespect you and somehow you feel guilty? Let's be incredibly clear here. YOU are not here to be a people pleaser! It's ok to call a spade a spade. Don't be afraid to speak up for yourself, your ideas, goals, morals and choices. You are NOT here to fit a mold of a fake ass society that creates drama, celebrity crazes, fad diets, perfection.

PERFECTION does not exist! Repeat it to yourself as many times as needed until you are able to firmly grasp that. We humans are not designed to be perfect. We already are. We aren't designed to be super models, wafer thin glamazons. We were born of this earth naked, covered in mess, and surrounded by care (if we're lucky). We come in imperfectly. Wrinkled, slimy, messy and screaming. This is ok!

The issue with some people is they have been so heavily programmed by the propaganda of the media that they begin to assimilate. They begin to conform without ever questioning why. They fall into religion without choice, and are taught to never question. Never question who wrote the books, why, where they came from, how accurate they are etc. These people are content accepting the life of illusion presented to them. These are the people that were hindered as kids whenever they tried to express ideas or creativity. These are the ones that may have been emotionally and physically neglected. These are the ones that have been taught that love is conditional. We must fit the mold of another's idea of "perfect" we jump through hoops of fire, starve ourselves, hinder our ideas.

I want you to stop buying into the BS. Stop making excuses for people mistreating you. I want you to love yourself, thoughts, body and mind wholly, deeply and meaningfully. Remember what it is like to feel excited again, and tell anyone else with a differing opinion "Adios!". Stop watering yourself down because others are too weak to handle you in your entirety. That is nothing to apologize for. Start handling people and relations with reciprocity and know when it's ok to walk away from toxic. You don't owe anyone a damn thing for choosing your happiness and mental health. Being family is not an excuse for being a shitty person. Stop justifying their insecurities being projected onto you. It's not ok, and it's gross. Step up, step away. Make your moves and be bold.

People will continue to treat you however you've allowed them to in the past. It's important for your sanity's sake you know where and how to establish those boundaries or cut those ties. Never apologize for choosing you.

Sam